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Proverbs Day 25
Posted on January 28th, 2013

The Lost Arts of Giving and Receiving Straight Talk

Prov 27:5 Better is open rebuke Than love that is concealed.

Prov 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.

Prov 28:4 Those who forsake the law praise the wicked, But those who keep the law strive with them.

Prov 28:23 He who rebukes a man will afterward find more favor Than he who flatters with the tongue.
We are living in an age of super-sensitivity. “Politically Correct” is the term that has governed how we are “allowed” to talk. If we offend someone on the street, they could get violent. If we offend someone in the workplace, we could get both fired and sued. Because we have lost our sense of community, we can’t correct other people’s children because their parents may not have the same values as we do. 

If we have a problem with our coworkers, we can’t just talk to them personally. We have to go through management. We are now raising a generation under this mindset. They are not taught how to stand-up for themselves and now we have an epidemic of bullying. We are becoming a nation who supports our troops, but are afraid to fight. Things have changed so rapidly.

It would be nice to say that this attitude has not crept into the churches in America. It has crept into the pews and the pulpit. We can be straight without being rude or purposely offensive. With the Christian, brutal honesty is done with the intent to help and not to hurt. It is meant to bring repentance and growth, not destruction.

We are our brother’s (and sister’s) keeper. Therefore, we should have relationships where we are able to receive the necessary rebuke. This is not supposed to come from the pulpit only, but from the person that is close to you and observes your decisions up close.  We should be “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).” Most of all we should be submitting to the truth. If we have a reverence for truth, we should listen to sound counsel spoken in love.

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend.. (Proverbs 27:5)” doesn’t sound like a non-confrontational conversation. “Open rebuke… (Proverbs 27:4)” is not a private conversation, it is public. No one can take straight talk from everyone, but we should be able to handle it from our friends and our spiritual leaders. The intent is not to run your life, but to enhance it with truth.

We definitely are in a society that is more inclined to break up than it is to make up. Perhaps on some level we are aware of this and know that if we are too straight, people won't get over it. I fully understand that, but it is obvious that we are also living at a time where no one wants to hear truth. Personally, I think this is related.

Posted in Bible 2013, Proverbs    Tagged with wounds, friends, relationships, correction, rebuke


Sis. Mae - July 25th, 2013 at 7:12 PM
When it comes to the Gospel, we are to speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15); and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: Some translations say "with gentleness and respect" (I Pet.3:15-16).
This does not preclude Paul's sharpness, according to the power which the Lord gave him to edification, and not to destruction (II Cor. 13:10).

COMPLETE: Prov. 25:__; Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house;...
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